Your flaws don’t determine who you are. Your actions do.
I will admit it to myself and you. I am a lazy person.
Always have been, in school I would avoid doing my homework until the last minute and instead play video games. I would struggle to keep my hobbies up, from Hockey in primary school. I would always give up too easily. I was the master of excuses, ‘sorry mum I can’t go rowing with my cousins, my leg is a bit sore’
If like me you are lazy, spending too much time on social media and your phone instead of focusing on what you want to do, and facing up to bigger problems in the now. It does not have to be this way.
Our flaws don’t control who we are, and they don’t need to hold us back. It’s the actions we take that define us.
Admitting it to yourself
I was in denial for years, me lazy? you have to be joking. You wait I will prove you wrong. I never did.
Once you open up and admit it to yourself, it does not need to hold you back. You can take small actions every day, to help define the person you want to be. When you are honest with yourself, the moments when the laziness kicks in again, and mark my words it will. You can at least be prepared, and kick yourself back into taking the right actions.
Writing is what has helped me, but it all starts with finding something you truly enjoy and tackling it through the highs and lows, especially when your lazy self returns.
Even today, the excuses were coming back into my mind. ‘I feel exhausted, I am not sure if I can write tonight’ and ‘I just do not feel 100% and a little weak, I should rest’.
Now if you are genuinely ill, please rest, that is not laziness. If however, you are just having an off day and not feeling 100%, the laziness can kick back in. Once you recognise it, you can take the action to focus on who and what you want to be.
Excuses and laziness almost stopped me from starting writing all together
I had always enjoyed writing, from early on in my professional career, but I had always felt like I was never good enough at it. I did not do well in English at school, I had no formal degree in writing in any way. I was always making up countless excuses to not write in my free time.
It was ironically when having a daydream and thinking about my career to date, I learned a lesson.
When I was younger I didn’t know about marketing, and never knew that it was something, one day I could do. However, I got a marketing role in a startup company, by putting my laziness and excuses to one side, and started to take the action to grow within my career. I understood, that I had a lot to learn, I still do, but that does not hold me back, in fact, it inspires me to want to keep learning.
The lesson I learned, like many others, is unless you are incredibly lucky or gifted, you can do and be who you want if you put in the work. You are not going to know everything at the start and that is okay.
I knew I was not a great writer, who has and still does have a lot to learn. But by starting, by actually writing and sharing it out in the world, I was taking that first step.
I still have plenty to learn, but this is what is pushing me forward, and you can do the same.
The laziness might never go away
This might be true, and so far I have had a handful of examples where it has started to creep slowly back into my life. You are going to have off days, going to fail, heck you might spend an entire weekend glued to Netflix and Instagram. It doesn’t matter.
What matters is when this happens, either yourself or someone close, needs to kick you in the rear, and snap you back into it. Always remembering that your actions determine who you want to be.
“There are risks and costs to a program of action. But they are far less than the long-range risks and costs of comfortable inaction.”
John F. Kennedy
Being lazy does not need to be a curse. You don’t need to always listen to your excuses. You just need to be taking action and stop making excuses.
Hopefully, in a few years from now, a few of us can look back and smile. Knowing that the small actions we took, lead us to where we are.